Posted by Brad Chisholm on September 30, 1998 at 16:39:15:
In Reply to: Re: visual erotica and gender posted by Kaylynn on August 27, 1998 at 17:27:19:
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> > > Brad, Women like GENITALIA just like men do. I as a erotic female am turned on by the male gender exposing ALL of his assets, especially a hard cock. I want to see more men going down on women because so many of us find this erotic as well as women touching, licking and sucking those taboo and unexpected male parts such as scrotum, anus, and prostate areas. Women equally love the power to seduce and make men come as well as being in control of their own desire. I especially would like to see more equitable couples erotica. A proper balance is necessary. Hope. If you need more, EMAIL me. M.G.
> > > 1) What imagery do women find erotic?
> > > 2) How does this imagery differ from traditional erotic imagery aimed at hetero males?
> > > 3) Why is the male penis so invisible (relative to images of fully nude women)?
> > > 4) How do women feel about the absence of the penis in erotic imagery today?
> > > My wife points out that the way I pose these questions assumes that all women and all men are alike, and I realize
> > > I am looking for broad generalizations. But that's a starting point that I hope will lead to an understanding of
> > > individual differences later on. Finally, I want to say that I am new to the internet and am not sure that my questions are
> > > the most appropriate for this forum. If you feel I shouldn't be dealing with this subject matter here I will certainly withdraw.
> > > Thanks for reading this message,
> > > Brad Chisholm
> I believe that the reason that the male penis
> is visually obsolete in most erotica is that most erotica is written for men BY men. men feel more comfortable exposing women than they
> do exposing themselves. in this way they remain in control and avoid feeling vulnerable or exposed. How many men would feel comfotable if the positions of men and women were reversed in popular media? it would never be allowed to happen and therefore it is going to be a long struggle to get erotica that is as appealing and stimulating to women as it seems to be to men. K
Kaylynn,
Sad but true. You're no doubt correct. Most erotica, especially cinematic erotica, is written by men for men. And yet, I am discovering that there are thousands of women out there who constitute an audience that is not being served. M.G. was quite direct about what she would like to see, and that's a far cry from what filmmakers--even women erotic filmmakers such as Patricia Louisiana Smith, ever show. My hope is to write a series of articles that help wake up the film industry to the fact that studios are missing the boat. By keeping men (at least straight men) from becoming uncomfortable with what they see in mainstream love scenes, filmmakers cheat women viewers out of a certain visual pleasure. Don't they? Being male I need help and am seeking comments from as many women on this subject as possible. If you'd care to share any further thoughts, please email me at bchisholm@stcloudstate.edu. This is a research project that I expect to be working on for a long time, so whoever reads this post and
has an opinion is welcome to express it in a followup or by emailing me directly. Time to get off my soapbox. Brad.